Many women see these two words together and cringe. There are many misconceptions about anal sex, and rumors of the pain and mess that anal sex can cause often scare people away from trying it. If you’re unaware of the right way to have anal sex, the experience can end up being just like the rumors – or even worse.
However, anal sex can be a very pleasurable experience if it’s done correctly and with someone you’re comfortable with. The first time is usually scary, disappointing, and some people may even hate it. But for me, after trying it again and again, using different methods and techniques, I finally figured out how to have pleasurable anal sex nearly every time. Now, anal sex is very satisfying for me!
We all know of the wonderful feeling the clitoris can give, but did you know that anal sex can also stimulate it from a different angle and create extremely intense orgasms?
The clitoris splits like a wishbone and runs along both sides of the vaginal lips. It makes it as far as the perineum, which is next to the anus. When done correctly, anal sex can stimulate the tips of these extensions by expanding the sphincter. Anal sex can also stimulate the G-spot; a penis or toy that penetrates the anus can often cause pressure and be felt through the vaginal wall, resulting in stimulation of the G-spot.
Anal sex might feel uncomfortable at first because we’re used to the anus being “exit only”. You’ll be able to feel it stretching, and it might even make you feel like you have to poop, 
but if you relax and have your partner take it slow, your anus will get used to the feeling. Once you’re used to it, the sex becomes pleasurable and actually exciting. I know the excitement my partner feels really turns me on and excites me. Mentally, it makes me feel like a naughty sexual adventurer. It’s something that started out of my comfort zone and out of the ordinary but became something fun and satisfying that my partner and I do on a really hot and heavy night. Once you get it right, it’s fun!
Anal sex isn’t something you can just jump into. It takes time and trust. I’d recommend that both parties should trust one another and feel comfortable together before trying it.
Personally, I’ve have had good and bad experiences with anal sex
If it’s your first time having anal sex, it should be approached very slowly. Your comfort is important and you’re going to want to let your partner know how you’re feeling and what to do throughout the process. They won’t have a clue to what you’re feeling unless you tell them. All they can tell is that it’s tight and it feels good! By being comfortable with your partner you can tell them to stop, go slower, add more lube, or anything else you’re feeling – so that the experience is positive for you both!
This guide will help you understand how to have anal sex the right way – and avoid any awkward, painful, or messy moments!
Anal sex is very similar to vaginal sex when it comes to pain and possible damage. If you were to have vaginal sex without any lubricant, it can create pain and tears. The same goes for anal. Anal tissue is thinner than vaginal tissue and is not self-lubricating like the vagina, so it’s important to have a lot of lube, and keep it within arms reach for the whole process. I prefer a silicone lube because it’s smooth, silky, and long-lasting – while water-based lubes can be thick. Many people prefer thickness, so it’s up to your personal preference. Just be aware that silicone lubes may stain light fabrics and can degrade silicone toys, so always lay down a towel to avoid any mess.