She had made the decision to cheat on your numerous times. This may be for various reasons, but it clear that your relationship is no longer viable. There is no reason for you to continue to think about maintaining view it a romantic relationship with her. Determine what you want for your future without her. Nourish your relationship with your children by spending additional time with them in person. Have a great day, Dude!
If you don’t love yourself and are comfortable with yourself, being with someone else won’t ever help you
I am in this position now. We both live together for the kids. We don’t love each other anymore, we don’t sleep together, we don’t communicate. Most of it is coming from me. I get irritated when he’s around. I don’t want to hear his voice. I don’t want to see him, I don’t wanna be seen by him. It’s a really hard life leaving in the same house but we both love our kids so much that we cannot finalize the divorce. It’s been almost 6 months since we were like this..since he coursed me to the bone called me names such as crazy, ugly f**** b**** and that he doesn’t like living with me anymore…and that I have to watch because he’s going to divorce me… I still don’t know what to do.
If he wants to rebuild the relationship, you guys could try marriage counseling
I don’t know what could help. It is also possible that you could just become friends who live together instead of being spouses. Many older couples end up without sex, but they still have the close friendship and affection of their earlier relationship. You can redefine your relationship on terms that work for both of you instead of just being a standard married couple. Doing it the way everyone else expects obviously isn’t working, so maybe you guys need to try something else.
I am in this position now. We both live together for the kids. We don’t love each other anymore, we don’t sleep together, we don’t communicate. Most of it is coming from me. I get irritated when he’s around. I don’t want to hear his voice. I don’t want to see him, I don’t wanna be seen by him. It’s a really hard life leaving in the same house but we both love our kids so much that we cannot finalize the divorce. I still don’t know what to do.
If he wants to rebuild the relationship, you guys could try marriage counseling
I don’t know what could help. It is also possible that you could just become friends who live together instead of being spouses. Many older couples end up without sex, but they still have the close friendship and affection of their earlier relationship. You can redefine your relationship on terms that work for both of you instead of just being a standard married couple. Doing it the way everyone else expects obviously isn’t working, so maybe you guys need to try something else.
Amazing how many people have hurt feelings and live their lives fueled by emotions. Not only that, but once their feelings have been hurt, they blame all persons of the opposite sex. It’s very sad. It seems it would be better to KNOW one’s self, and be HAPPY with one’s self, before committing to marriage to another. It will just end up hurting you both.
That is excellent advice. If you can’t know and love yourself, how could you possibly expect someone else to do so? Thanks for commenting!